Monday, January 14, 2013

MARTHA TELLING KEVIN & BRIDGET'S WEDDING


Just got home from the wedding  a few hours ago so here I am telling for New York State of Mind,  First you must understand that our weddings have no rings, long wedding dresses or veils, no bouquets, flowers, pictures and more.

Bridget wore a grey dress with white kapp (caps) like she would usually wear.  This dress and kapp are worn only twice in her life-her wedding and her funeral. It will be packed away after the wedding.  Kevin wore his first black dress suit with white shirt.  I made that suit for him. It is my first and probably last as Bridget will be making his future suits.

The wedding is held at the home of the bride.  We started work over there days before: cleaning the house, baking the cakes, pies, cookies, chicken, stuffing, sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, salads, and more for the wedding dinner.  Jean wanted to come and help, but we talked her into staying home until the wedding day so she could get moved.  She and her family did come to the wedding.

When they get there, the bride and groom go to a room upstairs with their attendants.  Attendants are two single girls and two single boys that the bride and groom select.  They are family or close friends.  Bridget chose one of her sister's and her closest friend.  Kevin had Erin, his brother, and his closest friend.  The four attendants are considered witnesses of the wedding.  Their other dating couples friends bring up the wedding gifts.  After they bring up the gifts-the girls go in one room and the boys in another.

When the adult guests are seated down stairs each is given a tiny bit of wine to drink and a cookie to eat.  The wine and cookies represent John 2:1 in the bible- Jesus turning the water to wine at the wedding at Cana.  The cookies were star shape.  As in church the men sit on one side of the room and the ladies sit in the other.  Someone has been chosen who calls out the names of the dating couples who come down the stairs together and are seated in a different room than the married couples.  If, say, a single boy comes, but is not dating anyone-the bride and groom will find a single girl about his age who is not dating-which puts the couple together for the rest of the wedding day.  

After everyone is sitting, the ministers and the bride's parents go upstairs for a brief talk with the bride and groom.  After the ministers and bride's parents return-the bride and groom come down the stairs.  The wedding ceremony takes about two hours until the marriage ceremony.  The marriage questions are asked to the bride and groom by the Bishop.  The bride and groom do not recite their vows.  They answer yes to the Bishop's questions.  We believe our marriage ceremony is between the marriage couple and the Lord.  Before the marriage ceremony Jean went into the kitchen to watch it while Bridget's Mother went to see the wedding ceremony.  Many times a Bride's Mother doesn't see the marriage ceremony because she is to busy watching the food cooking in the kitchen for the dinner.  The ceremony ends with the Bishop's blessing, and ministers blessing and prayer. 

There is no announcing the couples married name, no kissing, no hugging, no line or alike.  The bride and groom go upstairs while the men turn the rows into the dining table and chairs, then the ladies dress (table cloths, dishes, silver ware, etc.) the tables.  The bride and groom sit at the head of one of the tables with their attendants on either side while dinner is served. There were about 175 people there so they had to eat in shifts-Bishops, ministers, senior men first, other men second and ladies and children were the third.

After the dinner, the men started everyone singing, while us ladies did the dishes, cleaned up the kitchen and got ready for the evening meal.  Everyone sang for a couple of hours, when the adult guests and little children leave.  More of Bridget and Kevin's friends came.  Usually at this time, they start singing, games and guests pull some jokes on them,  but we noticed that Bridget and Kevin were going upstairs to change their clothes.  Some of the other guests were changing, too.  We asked Bridget's parents what was happening as we do not have honeymoons.  Bridget's Mother said-the are going skiing.  They changed, went to the barn to get their skiis and set out for Bristol Mountain to ski.  Most of them have worked on their farms or other jobs and haven't had much time to ski since the snow-so they went skiing.  I can't tell you how the skiing went or the dinner.  Bridget and Kevin will have to tell you about that in another post. 

Bridget and Kevin will spend the night at Bridget's parents to help to clean the house, move back the funature, etc. tomorrow.  Then they will come and move into their apartment on our third floor.  They think they are getting just a bedroom and a new bathroom.  We sent Kevin off the last couple weeks during the day to help a friend of ours.  While he was there we and our friends completely remodeled the third floor into an apartment with a kitchen, 3 bedrooms, living room, a bathroom in the master bedroom and another bathroom. We put curtains and shades on the windows.  David,  Jean's husband, was a big help so we will be helping Jean and David move. Also, we moved all Bridget and Kevin's  furniture in the apartment.  So when Bridget and Kevin get here,  tomorrow, they will have surpise when they go up there.

I hope you enjoy reading about the wedding.  Hope I didn't go on to long.  Joseph and I feel older now.  We are seeing our children grow up, and marry.

Be With the Lord,
Martha

31 comments:

ga447 said...

Thank you for all the information, I didn't realize the Bishop ask them so many questions. Lots going on.

Anonymous said...

Hello Martha-Thank you -I enjoyed hearing about the Wedding -it was almost like being there-glad Bridget's Mother was able to see the ceremony
What a wonderful surprise Kevin and Bridget must have had-hope they are nicely settled-
Wishing them a happy life together

Fionalina

kymber said...

i haven't commented much on any of these new posts but i have thoroughly enjoyed them. i felt like i was at the wedding, too - it sounded wonderful for the new bride and groom! i am so happy that the newly married couple will have such a surprise about their living arrangements...and i am very glad that they gave their house to Jean and David. i can't wait to hear about their response to their new apartment.

i am very glad that both Jean and Martha are continuing to share their lives with us all. it is really helping us to define what is important in our lives here at the Manor.

a friend to all of you,
kymber

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning ga447,
I will have to ask Martha how long the marriage vows are. Glad you liked the information.
Marilyn

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Fionalina,
I will tell them that you wish them well. From what Martha said they will really surprised about the apartment. They wondered how they got it done without them knowing about it. I will have to have Martha tell about it in one of her posts.
Marilyn

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Kymber,
Thank you for your comments and I will tell Martha and Jean what you said. I am glad that you like their posts on here. They work hard to get them on here.
A friend to you,
Marilyn

Vickie said...

Congratulations Bridget and Kevin! How wonderful.

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Vickie,
Thank, I will tell them. Thank you for coming.
Marilyn

Chasity said...

Thank you for sharing the wedding story Martha and Marilyn! Congratulations to Kevin and Bridget!

New York State Of Mind said...

Thank you very much, Chasity, I will pass it on to them. I am glad you liked their wedding.

Marilyn

Anonymous said...

I really enjoyed this post, as well as the others. Congratulations to the newlyweds. Vicki

New York State Of Mind said...

Hello Vicki,
I will congratulate the newlyweds for you. Glad you liked the post.
Marilyn

Anonymous said...

A very interesting report. I have noticed before that the bride wear's her dress again at death. Now, many Englischer's would never fit in their wedding dress years later; I know I don't even now! So what happens? Are alterations made? No disrespect intended, I truly am curious. thank you.

New York State Of Mind said...

Hello,
That is a very good question which I will give to Martha. I don't fit in the clothes that I use to when I was younger. I don't think it's disrespect. Like you, I never thought of that and I am curious, too. I am sure Martha will answer on a future post.

Marilyn

jodie said...

Contratulations to Kevin and Bridgett.
Thank you Martha for telling about the wedding. I could 'see' it as I read.
I was also curious about the wedding dress being worn at her funeral.
I don't think many of us could wear something of many years ago.
jodie

jodie said...

Well, maybe I should learn how to spell. Sorry about the mistake
jodie

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Jodie,
I will give Kevin and Bridget your wishes. Also, I have it written down to ask Martha that question. I don't know too many people that are the same size when they marry that they are when they pass on. Don't worry about the spelling. I make mistakes, too.

Marilyn

Amish Stories said...

I could maybe live without the ring, but no kissing or hugging thats a deal breaker,lol.


A very interesting post Marilyn and Martha so I just learned a little something on this one, and this comes from someone who knows something about everything,lol. Richard

New York State Of Mind said...

Martha called me and I read your comment to her. She said you can't hug and kiss in public, but that changes behind closed doors. LOL

Glad you found the post interesting.

Marilyn and Martha

Diann said...

I so enjoyed reading about the wedding. It sounds similar to the Amish weddings I have read about. Wishing the young couple a long and happy life together. Thanks so much for sharing their story!
Diann

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Diann,
Glad you enjoyed reading about the wedding. I will give Kevin and Bridget your wishes. I will also thank Martha for sharing the post.

Marilyn

SueAnn said...

This is such a nice way to marry....no rushing....spending time with the family and friends..helping after....it seems so peaceful..compared to modern weddings...bet it was fun to go skiing!
Your remodel will be a huge surprise-so kind of you to think of their needs,,in their new married life.A true blessing for them...to have you.

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning SueAnn,
Martha has another post coming up about the what they thought when they saw the apartment. Glad you enjoyed the wedding.
Marilyn

New York State Of Mind said...

I just rechecked the receipe for tomorrow to make sure it was right. Hope you like it. It is something kind of different that Jean came up.

Marilyn

plaingrl said...

Hello Martha,
My question is what happens if the woman (bride) cannot fit into her wedding dress when she dies? Would she be made a new dress?

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi plaingrl,
Martha answers that question in her post a week from Monday. This coming Monday is about courting. The next Monday is answering some of the questions people have asked and that is one of the questions she answers. So, please come back and read that post.

Marilyn

aldritz kezia said...

Congratulations to Kevin and Bridget.Thanks for sharing their story Martha and Marilyn.

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning aldritz kwzia,
Thank you, I will pass it on to Kevin and Bridget. Glad you enjoyed the post.
Marilyn

Gisa said...

Congratulations Bridget and Kevin from good old Europe!

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Gisa,
I will see that they get your Congratulations.

Marilyn

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