Monday, January 21, 2013
MARTHA TELLS OF COURTING WITH BUGGY
Our young folks can start attending singing at age 16. Singing is held on Saturday night at the home of one of the young folks parents home. It is usually held in the barn, as it is at our home. The young folks sing for about two hours, then finger food is served and in the warm weather they have games. Parents or a young couple supervise the young folks for the first two hours, but leave for the rest of the evening. Even though we are not attending, at our house, we can keep an eye from the second or third story windows. We don't watch all the time, but check and make sure everything is all right.
Our meeting (church) also has other activities especially in the spring, summer and fall times. They may have a dinner, baseball or volley ball game or some other activity for the young folks to attend. In the winter parents have ice skating, sleding, skiing, etc. plus, of course, something for the young folks to eat. One thing about Mennonite and English young folks a like-they all love to eat.
We do not have rumsprings like the Amish do although some of our young folks do things we wouldn't want them to. Kevin had a car. Sometimes they go on day trips. Kevin and the boys went to Niagara Falls and stayed over night and to Virginia Beach. Boys and girls do not go on overnight trips together. Some also smoke cigarettes, drink, go to movies, listen to music, and more.
It is at the singings that we hope our young folks will meet their future spouce. We believe this person should also be Old Order Mennonite by the bible 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with ubelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?
When Kevin asked Bridget to marry him, she said she would not consider it until he got rid of the car and turned in his drivers license, which he did. Unfortunately, Erin, our son and Kevin's brother now has his license and is driving the car.
The courting buggy is purchsed either by the parents or the young fellow when he is of courting age. We purchased a used one for Kevin, which will be passed down to his brothers. The buggy in the pictures above is a brand new one-recently made-for a friend of Kevin and Erin's. You notice all the silver tone circles on the back, the deer plate, the extra mirrors and reflectors. Even the horse has green on him. Young gentlemen like to really dress up these courting buggies-within reason.
When they were married, Kevin's was passed down to his brothers. As the fellow who owns the above buggy purchased his buggy himself when he marries a lot of the mirrors and reflectors will come off. The silver will be covered with black paint. The deer plate will go and a plain orange one will go on. The horse will be wearing black instead of green. When they have children, they will have to sell or trade it for a bigger buggy.
I know young folks do things us parents don't know about. Kevin and Bridget were saying they did things we don't want to know about. When Joseph and I were courting I am sure we did things our parents don't know about.
Dating is suppose to be done on Sunday afternoon and evenings in the home of the young girl. They talk, play table games, etc. Of course, they go for buggy rides, walks and more. The days of not knowing who is dating who is pretty much over. Also from just dating on Sunday, are getting more days of the week. We were so glad when we found out that Kevin was courting Bridget.
This is the general way our young folk court. When the proposal is made-there are no engagement rings, parties, etc. The man buys the lady a clock to symbol they will be spending the rest of their together. The wedding is published (announced) at meeting (church) three or four weeks before the wedding. I believe I told everything else from Kevin and Bridget's wedding post.
Be With the Lord,