Tuesday, January 6, 2015

SARAH - JOHN'S WIFE, TELLS OF BEING NEWLY MARRIED

Hello, I am Sarah, married to Elmer and Anna's son, John.  Someone wanted, a while back, for Bridget to tell of what a newly married woman day is like.  Well, Bridget is shy so even though I am recently married, I will tell you.

Getting married is all new from helping my Mother at home.  There, my mother, was usually the head of household.  If she was not home, for some reason, then I took over, but even then what I did answered to my Mother.  So having my own home is a new way of life..

Another situation is living with someone who dated, courted and married you.  Not having lived together before John finds my ways of doing things and thoughts - I find out his. The attitude in his family is completely different that I was raised.  Not as strict as my Father was.  Now I am not putting down my Father.  I loved him and I love my Mother, but their ways were different.  For example, I asked John what he wanted for dinner after breakfast one day.  He said he didn't care.  So I started beef stew.  John came in at lunch and said he wanted pork chops.  When I told him I had already started beef stew he said okay, we can have pork chops tomorrow.  If it had been my Father  told my Mother he wanted pork chops my Mother would have to stop the stew and make sure we had pork chops for dinner.

Before he makes major decisions, John always asks what I think or my opinion.  I was so surprised when he first did that. My Father made all the decisions in our home.  He never asked my Mother. My Mother said it is kind of hard on her to make decisions, since my Father passed,  because my Father always made them.  It is for me too, but I am getting use to it.

We appreciate all that people did for us when John and got married and my Father's passing.  I know my Mother and John's Mother set up the house, but I changed some things around the way I wanted.
You have to set some sort of a schedule to run a house.  Must do that to get things done everyday.  I do not write it down, but I keep it in my head.  John sometimes laughs at my schedule.  He says schedules are made to be broken.  What he doesn't realize is that he has a schedule, he just doesn't realize it.To do all his chores: milking the cows, feeding the animals, barn chores, on and on - he must have a schedule to get it all done in a day.

When first married, it is Amish custom that John and I got to our friends and relatives home visit, receive our gift, and have a meal.  Do to my Father's passing, we had a discussion and decided not to do this.  We spoke with Bishop Eli who agreed with us.  But, people have been coming to our home, visiting, bring a gift and having a meal with us.  Sometimes they even brought the meal.  John and I wondered about this so we said something to Bishop Eli.  He got a smile on his face, and said, maybe they want to see your new home.  So John and I think he had something to do with the people coming to our home.  We do appreciate it.

As I was talking of schedules, an Amish woman must cook meals, bake, do laundry clean the house, and do sewing.  Right now I don't have a lot of sewing to do because most of our clothes are fairly new.  I do work on hankies, quilts, and rugs to sell.  Also, I will be going to quiltings, visiting, helping others when needed, and more.

As I said John feels schedules are made to be broken.  During the beautiful weather, he came a couple of times during the afternoon and said let's go for a buggy ride.  I told him I had chores.  He said they will be there tomorrow.  This beautiful weather won't.  So we went for the rides.  Sometimes we would just take a walk.   Anna says John is very much like his Father.

I am not sure what you wanted to know so please ask questions and I will come on again to answer them.

Trust God's Wisdom,
Sarah

  


23 comments:

Anonymous said...

Welcome Sarah! It is so nice to read your accounting of married life that is so new! It sounds to me that the period that your are experiencing now that you are getting used to each other is much like that of many newlyweds. You are not only getting used to each other but your are getting used to running a household. Your hubby sounds like he has his priorities in order and enjoys those gifts of nice days with his wife - a sound practice for sure. Congratulations of your new life and I hope for you continued appreciation of those seemingly small things in life (like the buggy ride on a nice day). In looking back you will realize that those small things make up your life! Keep your posts coming, please. Chris

Angela said...

Welcome and thank you to Sarah. A very lovely post and a small look into your new life. Congratulations!

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Chris and Angela,

Thank you for welcoming Sarah. I will see that she gets your messages.

Marilyn

Vickie said...

What a refreshing post. I read it and felt so hopefilled for Sarah and John. How wonderful to get a sneak peak into their new lives together.

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Vickie,

So glad that you like her on here. Will see that she gets your message.

Hugs to Mabel and Henry,
Marilyn and Pierre

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Vickie,

So glad that you like her on here. Will see that she gets your message.

Hugs to Mabel and Henry,
Marilyn and Pierre

Countryside Reflections said...

Welcome Sarah and thank you for telling us about your new married life. I remember how exciting it was to have a home of my own and a whole new future ahead of us. I think you're very lucky to have fallen in love with a member of Elmer's family. John sounds like he has learned good caring practices from his family, and he appreciates not only his new wife, but the simple pleasures of a buggy ride and a quiet walk in the afternoon. Best of luck to both of you, and I hope we'll hear from you often.

Doreen

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Doreen,

Thank you for your welcome to Sarah. I will see that she gets your message. She will appreciate all of them. Will see if she will come back often.

Hope you are feeling better.

Marilyn

Anonymous said...

Dear Sarah,

I very much enjoyed reading your post, it made me think about my early married days, it's the same everywhere isn't it - having to find out how each person works and what works for the both of you!

All the best to you and your husband - may your joys be many and your troubles few!
Cheers,
Susan

Dayna Molloy said...

Congratulations on your marriage Sarah. I have a daughter who is also named Sarah.

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Susan,

Thank you for your message, I will see that Sarah gets it.

Marilyn

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Dayna,

Thank you for your message, I will see that Sarah gets it. I like the name Sarah.

Marilyn

Anonymous said...

Hello Sarah, Welcome to the NYSofM blogging family. I'm sure looking forward to reading more about your new life, as you grow closer to the Lord and to John. Blessings to you both, Carol

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Carol,

Thank you for the welcome and message to Sarah. I will see she gets her message.

Marilyn

Anonymous said...

Thank you Sarah! I enjoyed your post and hope to hear more from you. I know being newly married is very busy.
Marilyn: Thank you for asking Sarah to post a column.
Carol in SC

Diann Brown said...

Welcome, Sarah! I so enjoyed your post and look forward to more! Enjoy those little things in life; one day you will look back to find they were the big things!

Ingrid said...

I would like to join everybody else in welcoming Sarah as a contributor to this blog.I kind of feel like I know you from what Anna has mentioned in her posts,hope to hear from you more often.Thank you for taking time to write the post.Its been 38 years since I was a newlywed and remember pretty well what it was like getting the feel of things and learning all the different traditions of my in-laws.It sounds like all of you get along well and respect one another,that is always very nice.
Wishing you and John well.
Ingrid

annie said...

Welcome! This was a lovely post!
It sounds like you are very happy!
I hope you both have many wonderful years together!

New York State Of Mind said...

Hi Everyone,

Thank you all for welcoming Sarah. I will see that she gets everyone's messages. Know that she will appreciate them.

Marilyn

Willow's Quiet Corner said...

Welcome, Sarah! I enjoyed reading your post. I think it is so sweet that John wants to spend time with you out riding or going for walks. Those are going to be the moments you looks back on and cherish when you are older.

Laurie M said...

I enjoyed this so much!! I would love also to hear more about the rugs you make, I am so curious, best wishes to you all, and thank you for sharing!

New York State Of Mind said...

Good Morning Everyone,

Sarah was so surprised when I called her at Elmer and Anna's and told her how many people commented and read them to her. She didn't think anyone would care what she wrote. We proved her wrong. She is so happy.

Marilyn

dynnamae n said...

I also really enjoyed Sarah's post and would like to see her here again. I'm happy she has such a considerate and caring husband. What a difference it makes when both partners are looking out for each other. God bless you both.