Tuesday, August 26, 2014
ELMER'S ON AGAIN !!!
I am sure you all know about what happened to those two Amish girls in upstate New York. Seeing I am Amish, Marilyn came up with several question to me and I am going to answer some of them.
Yes, we forgive people for evil that they do to us. I am sure those girls and their family have forgiven the people that did these crimes. But, we do not forget what they did. We try. But in a case like this, I am sure those little girls and their family will remember that for the rest of their lives. Also in the bible it says revenge is mine saith the Lord.
Our daughter was going to town in a buggy, some years ago, and was hit by a car. We forgave the driver even though he had been drinking, but we still have never forgotten the accident. The accident happened over 20 years ago, but we still remember and once in a while it comes up in conversation.
Marilyn asked how they parents would feel about their children when they came home? Would they make the little girls feel guilty or they did something wrong in what happened? Her parents are Schwartzentruber Amish and I am Old Order Amish, but I don't think they blame the children for anything. I have heard of people blaming girls in their teens and twenties if they had been forced on, but not in this situation. If it happened to one of our daughters, no matter what age, I would not blame them. I believe that when those children came home, their parents hugged them and didn't want to let them go - they were so happy to see them. We do not show a lot of emotion in public especially affection. That is for the privacy of our homes.
Will the girls go to court to testify against the people. I doubt it. It is our way not to testify in court. It is not our place to condemn someone. We do not sue people. If somehow one of the lawyers got laws or papers where they had to go, they would go, but I don't think they would testify.
Another question was what did the girls Father mean when he said he felt sorry for those that did these crimes to the girls? Just what he said. He felt sorry for them. Here they are fairly young people and they ruined the rest of their life doing what they did. I feel the same way. We are not saying what they did was right. We are not saying they should go free. We just hope as Jean did in one of her posts, that they find the way of the Lord, apologize for what they did - even if it is just to the Lord, are born again and follow the way of the Lord. We do not approve of what they did, but we still want them to find their way to the Lord.
When they are old enough to marry - will they be allowed to marry? Would a fellow marry them? Of course they will be allowed to marry. We hope they both find wonderful husbands. As our way, no man should hold this against them. If some young man does, he's not worthy of her. They deserve someone else.
What if one of the girls is with child from what happened to them? What would happen to the baby? If one of the girls were with child, the family would accept the child into the family - both the one with child and the baby when it was born. Depending on the age of the child, the girl that was with child's parents might raise the child. Still the baby would know who it's Mother was. All family love and care would be given the baby as if it were born into a couple that were married. We do not believe in abortion or putting one of our child up for adoption. We would believe that it is the Lord's will.
Do we believe that what happened to those two girl's is the Lord's will? We believe the Lord allowed it to happen for a reason. Why we don't know. We may never know. But we also believe the Lord was there as the girls got home after it happened. They came home to a family where they are loved.
Will the parents of the girls take them to a doctor of psychiatry? Probably not unless it is court ordered. It is our way not to tell our private life to someone outside the Amish. Seeing that their Father is a Bishop, if they had problems, he would take one of them or both to another Bishop to talk with, but no one outside of the Amish.
If any of you had any other questions, please ask. I will try to answer them.
Trust God's Wisdom,
I thank Elmer for taking the time to answer all the questions I asked him. He is the only Amish man I know well enough to ask them of. Elmer, I thank you for answering them for me.
If there are any mistakes in English on here - we did this late last night.